Psychology of communication-Part Three emotional attachment

I am I only by you and with you.
I recognize myself just because
Because you resist my
Consciousness as a visible and tangible I
as another.

L.Φoerbah

Emotional prizarzane between the child and the mother, which is established after birth is the beginning of co-packed life. Birth detachment, destruction of unconscious bliss iztravane forced from the womb, filled with anxiety, and with it - the beginning of a new form of life, of existence - Sabina in which the fate of the child is inextricably linked to the fate of the mother.
Emotional prizarzane is not only a form of togetherness, which opens at a certain time horizon of jointness, but the basis for many of the later forms of reciprocity between self and other.
Joy is related to relationships that are filled with certainty and sincerity in which the self love which finds its significance.

In ovshtuvaneto the other joy can be looted when the Ego:
ü Become insensitive to the onrushing joy when a place of fear, alchnossta, envy, anxiety.
ü Trying to keep forcibly removing the joy of freedom of other
ü refuse to accept joy
ü indulge in fantasies and empty dreaming
ü filled with boldness to achieve the objectives
ü A rich and beautiful forms of togetherness
ü shared ideas, values​​, dreams, emotions are extracted from indifference
ü Podtitva to search for ideas
ü induces openness to experiences and challenges
ü led to consider the situation from different points
ü prompts searches nosochi to overcome the banal and boredom
ü induces self-surmounting
ü prompted to overcome the fear of rejection and fear of samoizmenie

Types of Emotional Prizarzane

The image that the ego has for himself and for others, reflects directly on the form of attachment, which could be very stable over time.
Emotional prizarzane between self and other can unite around two forms:
v sincere emotional connection
v insincere emotional connection

Sincere emotional connection is ukorenena in love and respect. The presence of the other is giving. Emotional connection found samotsennostta of Me and You. Provides an opportunity for samoutvarzhavane and self-surmounting.
Emotional connection is open to challenge. Figure the other is a source of security, not fear.
Insincere emotional connection is ukorenena fear and neuvezhenieto - the other is not self-centered. I am weak, you are strong. Under other detects the weakness of self. Powerless is based on the fear that I could be robbed.
Impotence can occur in:
§ Regression: self recognizes its weakness - respect to the other results in obedience.
§ resignation: the self is at peace with his fate and leave the other.
§ Depression: self reconciles with his fate and is separated from himself - moving away from the other is achieved by moving away from him.