Promises to deal with everything in your way to be free PERSONALITIES

Do not do this and we all his life? Every morning we scooting to chase and "very important" their ephemeral goal, straining, freight is our best efforts, will and energy wasting your time, torture is annoying is losing its freedom and ruining their lives, expecting cherished moment that someone or something will make us happy ... Should I wait for the pain to become intolerable to realize that wE are the only ones who can stop it ?! That happiness is not out there in the distant and unknown future, but here and now up to us!
What actually stops us to be happy?
Brake is inside us. And is called FEAR. Obsessive, numbing, numbing our thoughts, our feelings confusing blocking actions. Our whole life is filled with fear. Fear of pain. Of disease. From poverty. Stupidity. By fate. Violence. Of cruelty. Anger. Of vindictiveness. Of insanity. We fear for loved ones. Afraid of yourself ...
Accumulated fear bursts out in the form of phobias, panic disorders, aggression and self-aggression.
Why be afraid?
Fear is a natural reaction of the body, occurring in response to a real, life-threatening danger. If you walk in the woods and encounter a bear, will naturally be terrified. Society in which we live and we create, however, generates artificial fears. By artificial hazards. So we are easily manipulated and controlled. Fear of the authorities, of what people will say, the change of life ... ... Bringing you give us parents, society, school, different philosophies, religion and morality creates fictional norms appear fictitious role models. It was then that person becomes your own za¬tvor. And especially in the mystery for yourself. The answer that we can give life remains unspoken or deform under pressure from all sorts of anxieties, worries, neuroses of fear "that we are not like the others", the freezing of respect for others' opinions, to what "was adopted ".
And do not realize that fear is actually a border that put themselves. And we remove ourselves.
How to master your fears? Here is a simple strategy:
1. The first thing we can do is to openly and honestly admit their fears to ourselves. All fears. And especially those who are ashamed and do not want in any case, the other to understand them.
2. The second step is to make introspection. To ask questions and try to find answers. Why be afraid? Prevents me from something this fear? What is the reason for it?
Maybe sometime in the past have suffered ridicule and humiliation? Realize that the past is no longer immutable. We can only change our attitude towards it. To stop the pain. And we start to live happily now.
3. Challenge yourself! Go!
Recall a situation in which you were able to overcome the fear. How did you feel then? If you have not come across such a situation - imagine her! How would you feel? Proud of yourself? Strengths? Calm? Confident?
Look fear with humor. According to Viktor Frankl, a leading psychoanalysts in postwar Austria, laughter is the best way to deal with fear. Try to see the side. Dig in turn, exaggerated to the extreme, grotesque to tell you, "Here now you will be afraid to end to see what happens". For example, if you are afraid that someone will take the exam at the university, you can say "Well, I will not take the exam, you will not write the year will exclude me from the university, will not get a job, your boyfriend will dump me, you have to live on the street and eat with wild plums from the trees in the park ... "at some point you become funny and you will realize how ridiculous it is your fear.
Whenever you feel the fear again, try to remember the feeling you felt when you overcome it. Retrieve it! Live it! And believe, know that you are again broken through fear!