Specifics of the twins, the first part

Twins are very attached to each other, especially in infancy hard tolerate tabs. Kids as young couples prefer to hold on to hands, love to sleep in the same bed, and so on. Parents can easily succumb to the temptation to leave them together, after all, and anyway the kids want it. This is a mistake! If children are not taught time at times to live alone, without the other twin, they can for life remain limited by "mezhdubliznachnite" relationship may not develop their different interests, not to develop personal friendships, not to create families. Therefore, slowly and without excessive pressure each twin should learn to leave it alone - no brother or sister. Sometimes it is better for children to appear on separate walks or one twin remains day - two to visit her grandmother and so on.
If children attend kindergarten, then try once accustomed to the conditions to separate them into different groups. Of course in any case should not insist. Separation can actually be a huge trauma. Many twins kept vivid memory of the day on which for the first time were separated from each other. Every child at the beginning while experiencing some difficulties accustomed to kindergarten. Due to the fact that they are two twins much more painless accustomed to the new environment. It is good if the kids are ready for this step in the school also visit neighboring classes. Before you begin a serious separation of twins, however, would be beneficial to consult with a specialist - a psychologist, educator, pediatrician. The most important thing is to encourage even the smallest act of independence and individuality, helping to build personal I of each child.

Sometimes twins are formed called. autonomous speech - absolutely incomprehensible to others and crystal clear for both. Often parents do not attach great importance to children's chatter and react only when they notice that the twins are starting to fall behind in their development as they do not form normal speech. Such a situation is typical for families in which the adults a little talk with the twins, while turning to them as a whole (Anna Maria). In itself this phenomenon is pleased harmless. Autonomous speech might lead to a problem only when children refuse to communicate like everyone else, which in turn can affect the best remedy in such cases the children to be separated from each other at least a few hours a day. The desire to be misunderstood by others, the twins quickly shake off the speech problems. The most important thing is time to pay attention to the possible unpleasant consequences / isolation, withdrawal / separation from the other twin. It should be noted that small and slight defects in speech are common in twins (and the fact that quite often hear "right speech" of his partner) and often there are demands for a speech therapist.


  That the twins spend a lot of time together and surrounding them as a whole, reflect on their individuality and independence. Within three years the twins can go wrong and do not recognize myself photos or in the mirror and respond to his name and that of his brother or sister often use the pronoun "we" instead of "I". Therefore, when communicating with them is important to focus on their differences on their characteristics and to talk about them. It would be good from infancy children to dress differently. Of course sometimes it is quite difficult, but even the smallest differences, / as different buttons, for example / are sufficient. Each child should have their own clothes, their own toys, their books. Always make sure you express your approval for any manifestation of independence, individuality, originality. Note, however, that jealousy and competition in the conquest of the attention and love of their parents are not uncommon in twins.